I love it when I do things that make me feel like the Cock of the Walk. Last winter I had to split a log that was 2 feet long and 1 1/2 feet wide for our fireplace. I live in the heart of Minneapolis, so I don’t have an axe. But I have a hatchet. I went Gary Paulson on that timber, and a few minutes later the house filled with “Victory” as I showed my dominion over the lumber.
I love it when people make me feel more like a man. One day at work I was helping a coworker fix the fax machine. Upon enacting my handy-man skills and saving the day for my coworker she complimented me, with sincerity, by saying “You’re so man right now.”
I also love the influence being a man carries. One semester in college I tutored daily for an after school program for inner-city kids. Most of these kids came from tough backgrounds and broken homes. There were 4 guys I grew particularly fond of. I felt privileged and honored to be able to impact their lives: knowing that they loved me not because they had to love me, but because they knew I was unconditionally for them and not against them.
Whether it’s from big or small accomplishments, I would be surprised if I am the only man that ever thought to himself “I am a man and I get shit done.”
I had this same feeling and thought tonight as I read an article from Esquire Magazine. It describes 75 skills every man should master. I may be a braggart when I say this, but my pride as a man swelled when I figured out I am capable of 39 items on the list.
I was also rather surprised to see that only a handful of the items were concerned with sexual or athletic conquests. Before I read the article, I thought to myself “Surely this article is going to venerate men of sensuality and brutishness.” On the contrary, I found the article to be quite chivalrous and considerate toward the regard of others as better than my own. Of course, there are some things that may seem kind of petty; but they all play into the innate desire of men to command and conquer.